I don’t give a shit if I call it a date and not a day 2. I hate saying shit like that. It’s like dungeon and dragons for the PUA crowd. Even using the word PUA sort of makes my skin crawl in a way.
Anyways I went out with this girl that I met last weekend during a sidewalk festival. She actually just started seeing someone so I was a bit surprised she came out to see me. During our date I told her that I was surprised she came out because she had a bf and she said that it was one little bit that I delivered in our conversation that made her say this guy is cool enough to see even though I have a bf.
The bit I say is funny and I always say it when a girl has a bf. I’d tell it to you here but I don’t want to. Develop your own shit.
On to the date.
I don’t really remember anything game notable. There’s nothing I really do but have a fun conversation with the girl. It’s a natural conversation that flows freely with a good bit of teasing in there from me. I do my best to get to know them and be genuinely interested in what they are saying.
One thing that I do remember:
When we talked about her meeting me today and only how she had an hour because she was going to dinner with her dad. She said if I would have taken her out on Friday she would have had more time but she said I probably had a date. I felt like it a was a shit test but I didn’t have a good response to it. I just looked her in the eyes, took a sip of my drink, and then slowly put it back down.
As I put my drink back down and looked at her she said, “it’s ok if you do I don’t mind. I’m sure you have plenty of girls. I don’t mind.”
I interpreted this as she found me as a high status male that has his choice of girls. Then again I can be wrong and over thinking this. I’ll know when I contact her for another date.
Black nerdy looking girl in Target
When I approached her I made a comment about how she was in her own little world listening to music and asked what she was listening to. She said the Glitch mob which I thought she said Lynch Mob which to me was an old 90’s rap group. I made my standard mid-west look assumption when I could have done something different.
It’s always the sweet innocent ones you need to look out for. Nerd by day… throwing up gang signs at night repping your set.
She tells me her dad is from the midwest and that she’s from LA and goes back and forth from SD to LA. I could have thrown in a few teases here instead of going right into the question of “Is LA hugely different from San Diego?”
Oh… so you probably just bring your laundry up to get it done?
Oh… so you just go back and forth? You pretty much just live on the freeway.
I felt like we vibed a but I never moved into investing her. I didn’t get her to open up about herself. She talks about how she travels for work, is an engineer, and into reading books like science fiction, fantasy, no twilight crap. Once she talks about books I make a tease but I should have gone into what type of books she’s into.
Asian girl outside of Nordstrom Rack (Martina)
Right off the bat my assumption to get the conversation is off. I go into my mid-west speal when she doesn’t even really look like that. She has the typical southern california look to her.
Oh… so you’ve got this typical so cal look to you. Dressed up but still sort of dressed down. I bet you love to wear scarfs in 80 degree heat.
She talks about how she likes ugg boots and only has a couple of scarfs. I could have talked about how she’s probably into fashion.
I go into what she’s doing today and she mentions how she’s shopping. I make a tease about uggs then I literally go blank in the head. She says it’s ok… so I can see she’s somewhat interested. To recover I made a comment about how her nails match her iphone and if she’s has case to match all her different nail colors?
“No I can’t wear a lot of polish for work”
We get into the topic of work, she’ works in a hospital and biolab. She wants to be a doctor.
This is where I make a mistake to try and invest her into the conversation more. I could have asked what type of doctor she wants to be. How she picked that specific field. To become a doctor is super hard you must have a great work ethic and dedication. There are lots of points here where I could have led the conversation where she opened up more about herself.
Right now I need to work on investing the girls more. I feel like I’ve attracted them and got them into the vibing stage. I just need to move them forward now. I need to pay attention to little bits of bait they drop so I can get them to open up about themselves more.